I was chatting with someone today. Let’s just call them, oh I don’t know, “my wife”. So get this, she says - she’s all like, “I think it’s BS when people say ‘don’t say there isn’t enough time. You have the same amount of time as everyone else.'"
Say what you want about my wife, that she is smarter than me, better looking, more accomplished, has better credit, more intelligent, a better parent, never been convicted of a felony, has never purchased a piece of real estate only to learn that it is in a government easement and the property is in fact useless - all accurate (you might recognize that I pulled that last one from an Arrested Development plotline). But her perspective is DEAD WRONG!
Now, there are things that one person has to do that other folks don’t. Some are pure dumb luck, others are a product of poorly established (or missing) boundaries.
But the large majority of things are self-inflicted. AKA poorly established boundaries.
There is a push in the "self-help" world or the world of entrepreneurship to be more guarded with your time. To say no. If you say yes to one thing, you are saying no (at least in part) to other things you have already committed to.
So to keep building and building and building and piling on, you are setting yourself up for failure and to say "there isn't enough time in the day."
Man, so much of what I talk about on this, I am guilty of. I write not because I have figured it all out, but to find commonality in the difficulty of life.
I take on more than I should. Bite off more than I can chew. And hope I don't get caught with my hand in the cookie jar or being seen as delinquent. So far so good. But we do need to be selfish with our time. I am reading Dan Martell's Buy Back Your Time (I am 3 pages in....so..yea) and between that and the Subtle Art..., there is a large focus on our time.
Good advice can touch on so many parts of our lives. But everything gets back to first principle: our time, our passions, our purpose, our priorities. Be sure you are making decisions in service of yours.
Every life without exception is a short one. As it is with a play, so it is with life – what matters is not how long the acting last, but how good it is. It is not important at what point you stop. Stop wherever you will - only make sure that you round it off with a good ending.
— -- Seneca, Letters from a Stoic
Don’t resist the thoughts that’ll pop up. Instead, keep watching them as they roll on through. Observe a thought – then let it go and remind yourself that this thought isn’t you. Make it your favorite pastime, your very own private sitcom, your show about nothing. As soon as you master the art of observing an idea and letting it go, your mind will quickly run out of topics to bring up. I learned to observe the thought that triggered my anger. The same event that once brought me anger now triggers happiness. Reframing the trigger reframes the emotion.
— -- Mo Gawdat, Solve for Happy
The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.
— -- Robert Greene, Mastery
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